How to Correct Your Mistake

Bruce Harvey from Albuquerque, New Mexico, had made a mistake in full salary payment of an employee that given permission not to come to work because of sickness. When he found his mistake, he told the employee and explained that to correct the mistake, he had to credit his salary with all of his previous excess amount. The employee begged because of the reduceness could make a serious monetary problem, "Can the money be paid later?" For this to be done, Harvey said, he would ask for the supervisor agreement. "And for that i know," said Harvey,"will give result an exploding anger boss style." When I tried to decide how to handle this situation better, I realized that all of this situation was my mistake, and I would admit it in front of my boss.


I walked in to his room, told him that I had made a mistake, then I told him the fact. He answered angrily, that it was Personalise Department mistake. I repeated that it was my mistake. He exploded again about Accounting Department being careless. Once again I explained that it was my mistake. He blamed another two persons. But every time I repeated it was my mistake. At last, he saw me and said,"Okay, it was your mistake. Now solve it." The problem finished and nobody got a problem. I felt very happy because I can handle this tight situation, and I had a courage not to made any alibi. Since that time, my boss become more respect to me.


Every stupid people can defend his mistake - and almost all stupid people do that - but to admit his own mistake lift someone to the top of his group and give him a noble and happy feeling.


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If you make a mistake, admit it quickly and symphaticly

What Smile Can Do II

At a dinner party in New York, one of the guest, a woman enthusiastically wanted to make impression to all of the people. She had used her money to buy furred-coat, diamond and pearl. But she hadn't done something to her face. Her face showed egoistic and gloomy. She wasn't aware what all people know ; expression reflected from someone face is much more important than cloth he/she wear.



Charles Schwab said that his smile valued one million dollar. And he might say the truth to me. Because of his personality, attractiveness, ability to make people like him, almost all become the reason of his great success; and one of the factor that it is very pleasant in his personality is his attractive smile.



Actions talk louder than words, and a smile means, "I like you. You make me happy. I like to meet you."



That's why dogs make impression like that. They are very happy to meet us that we become happy to meet them too.

You Can't Win a Debate

You can't win in a debate. You can't, because if you lose, you lose. And if you win, you lose too.


Why?

If you win in your debate with your friend and prove it to them so his/her argument is full of hole.

So what?

You will feel happy.

But what about your friend?

You've made him/her feel ashamed. You've hurt his/her pride. Your friend will hate you victory.

And what?

Your relationship with your friends will become worse.


Someone who was convinced to oppose his/her opinion will remain hold it.



How to prevent disagreement to avoid debate :


1. Respond well the disagreement

"If two friend always agree, one of them isn't needed." If there is something you haven't thought yet, thank God if it told to you. Maybe this disagreement is your chance to be corrected, before you make a serious problem.


2. Don't trust in your first impression of your instinct

Our first natural reaction in a bad condition is to be defensive. Be careful. Calm down and see your first reaction. Maybe that is your worst part, not your best part.


3. Control your emotion

Remember, you can measure how big is someone by the things made him/her mad.


4. Hear it first

Give a chance to your opponent to talk. Let them finish. Don't reject it, defend yourself or debating. All of this will only rise the wall between you and your opponent. Try to build an agreement bridge. Don't build a wall taller than misunderstanding.


5. See for the area you agree

If you've heard your opponents words, think the area you agree first


6. Be honest

See for the area you can take mistake, and tell it. Apologize for you mistake. This will help to disarm your opponent and reduce his/her defense.


7. Commit to think about your opponent's opinion and think about it well

Do it seriously. Your opponent may be right. Far more easy to think their opinion than you move forward and make your position where you opponent can say : "We've tried to tell you, but you won't listen"


8. Appreciate your opponent honestly for his/her interest

Everyone that want to share his/her time to disagree with you it means that he/she interested in the same thing with you. Think about them as the people who really want to help you,, and you may can change you enemy to your friend


9. Don't rush, give time to both side to think about the problem

Suggest the next meeting hold in that day or tomorrow, when all facts can be brought. When you prepared this meet, ask yourself this difficult questions :
Is he/she right? Half right? Is there a truth on their argumentation? Is my reaction will solve the problem or it will only make things harder? Will I lose or win?


Don't gamble your relationship with others. Let others win and you will not lose your relationship

Four Temperaments

There are four types of temperament known this far :

1. Sanguine

2. Choleric

3. Melancholic

4. Phlegmatic


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1.Sanguine

Sanguine indicates the personality of an individual with the temperament of blood, the season of spring (wet and hot), and the classical element of air.

A person who is sanguine is generally arrogant, cocky, indulgent, and confident.

He/She can be day-dreamy and off-task to the point of not accomplishing anything and can be impulsive, possibly acting on whims in an unpredictable fashion.

This also describes the manic phase of a bipolar disorder. Also, the humour of Sanguine is usually treated with leeches.


Strength :

a. Build relationships

b. Enjoy life

c. Friendly

d. Enthusiastic / Motivator

e. Extrovert

f. Mercy

Weakness :

a. Not focus

b. Less productive

c. Unstable emotion

d. Small ambition

e. Bombastic

f. Not a good listener


Learn to :

a. Control your emotion

b. Think result-oriented

c. See the fact / details

d. Be a good listener

e. Don't underestimate problem

f. Don't overtalk

g. Learn to be consistent


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2. Choleric

Choleric corresponds to the fluid of yellow bile, the season of summer (dry and hot), and the element of fire.

A person who is choleric is a doer and a leader.

They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others.

They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types.

Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics.

On the negative side, they are easily angered or bad-tempered



Strength :

a. Strong willed

b. To the point

c. Leader / Visioner

d. Optimistic

e. Competitive

f. Tough


Weakness :

a. Emotional

b. Not emphatic

c. "Who cares"

d. Not calm

e. Ambitious

f. Arrogant


Learn to :

a. Listen to other people

b. Be patient

c. Appreciate other people opinion

d. Understand other people's feel / emphatic

e. Don't rush everything

f. Don't be stubborn

g. Don't force your opinion


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3. Melancholic

Melancholic is the personality of an individual characterized by black bile, a person who was a thoughtful ponderer had a melancholic disposition.

Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative - as in poetry and art - but also can become overly pre-occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world, thus becoming depressed.

The temperament is associated with the season of autumn (dry and cold) and the element earth.

A melancholy is also often a perfectionist, being very particular about what they want and how they want it in some cases.

This often results in being unsatisfied with one's own artistic or creative works and always pointing out to themselves what could and should be improved.


Strength :

a. Sensitive

b. Perfectionist

c. Loyal

d. Willing to sacrifice

e. Selective

f. Serious


Weakness :

a. Perfectionist

b. Idealistic

c. Hard to make a decision

d. Lack of emphaty

e. Pessimistic


Learn to :

a. Don't be too perfectionist

b. Don't be too analytic

c. Focus on you future

d. Make a warm relationship with others

e. Be extrovert and don't be too secretive

f. Be optimistic


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4. Phlegmatic

A phlegmatic person is calm and unemotional.

Phlegmatic means "pertaining to phlegm", corresponds to the season of winter (wet and cold), and connotes the element of water.

While phlegmatics are generally self-content and kind, their shy personality can often inhibit enthusiasm in others and make themselves lazy and resistant to change.

They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats.

Like the sanguine personality, the phlegmatic has many friends.

However the phlegmatic is more reliable and compassionate; these characteristics typically make the phlegmatic a more dependable friend.


Strength :

a. Patient

b. Reliable

c. Loyal

d. A good listener

e. Efficient

f. Low profile


Weakness :

a. Slow

b. Lazy

c. Avoid conflict

d. Egoist

e. Hard to change

f. Not explicit


Learn to :

a. Don't be too shy

b. Increase your speed

c. Be optimist

d. Don't be afraid to face a risk

e. Don't be too sensitive with other's opinion

f. Don't always sacrifice yourself for other people

What Smile Can Do

The Value of Smile on Christmas

It doesn't ask to be paid, but it gives many

It make the receiver richer, without make the giver poorer

It just happen once, but sometimes the memory of it will last forever

Nobody although that rich can endure without it, and nobody although that poor but become richer because of it

It create happiness in the house, support kindness in business, and a token of response from friends

It gives rest for tiredness, bright for desperation, daylight for sadness, and natural amulet for trouble

But it cannot be bought, requested, borrowed, or stolen because it is something useless before given to somebody

And if at the last minutes of Christmas where most of our waitress become too tired to give you smile, can we ask you to leave your smile?

Because there's no one who needs smile better than those who has no more to give

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The expression reflected from some one's face is more important than the cloth he/she wears.
Smile to your friends and you'll see what smile can do in your relationship. I talk about an honest smile, not a fake smile. Your friends can tell whether your smile is fake or not. Do this and your relationship with your friends will be much much better.

Smile..smile..smile (^.^)/)