Four Temperaments

There are four types of temperament known this far :

1. Sanguine

2. Choleric

3. Melancholic

4. Phlegmatic


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1.Sanguine

Sanguine indicates the personality of an individual with the temperament of blood, the season of spring (wet and hot), and the classical element of air.

A person who is sanguine is generally arrogant, cocky, indulgent, and confident.

He/She can be day-dreamy and off-task to the point of not accomplishing anything and can be impulsive, possibly acting on whims in an unpredictable fashion.

This also describes the manic phase of a bipolar disorder. Also, the humour of Sanguine is usually treated with leeches.


Strength :

a. Build relationships

b. Enjoy life

c. Friendly

d. Enthusiastic / Motivator

e. Extrovert

f. Mercy

Weakness :

a. Not focus

b. Less productive

c. Unstable emotion

d. Small ambition

e. Bombastic

f. Not a good listener


Learn to :

a. Control your emotion

b. Think result-oriented

c. See the fact / details

d. Be a good listener

e. Don't underestimate problem

f. Don't overtalk

g. Learn to be consistent


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2. Choleric

Choleric corresponds to the fluid of yellow bile, the season of summer (dry and hot), and the element of fire.

A person who is choleric is a doer and a leader.

They have a lot of ambition, energy, and passion, and try to instill it in others.

They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types.

Many great charismatic military and political figures were cholerics.

On the negative side, they are easily angered or bad-tempered



Strength :

a. Strong willed

b. To the point

c. Leader / Visioner

d. Optimistic

e. Competitive

f. Tough


Weakness :

a. Emotional

b. Not emphatic

c. "Who cares"

d. Not calm

e. Ambitious

f. Arrogant


Learn to :

a. Listen to other people

b. Be patient

c. Appreciate other people opinion

d. Understand other people's feel / emphatic

e. Don't rush everything

f. Don't be stubborn

g. Don't force your opinion


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3. Melancholic

Melancholic is the personality of an individual characterized by black bile, a person who was a thoughtful ponderer had a melancholic disposition.

Often very kind and considerate, melancholics can be highly creative - as in poetry and art - but also can become overly pre-occupied with the tragedy and cruelty in the world, thus becoming depressed.

The temperament is associated with the season of autumn (dry and cold) and the element earth.

A melancholy is also often a perfectionist, being very particular about what they want and how they want it in some cases.

This often results in being unsatisfied with one's own artistic or creative works and always pointing out to themselves what could and should be improved.


Strength :

a. Sensitive

b. Perfectionist

c. Loyal

d. Willing to sacrifice

e. Selective

f. Serious


Weakness :

a. Perfectionist

b. Idealistic

c. Hard to make a decision

d. Lack of emphaty

e. Pessimistic


Learn to :

a. Don't be too perfectionist

b. Don't be too analytic

c. Focus on you future

d. Make a warm relationship with others

e. Be extrovert and don't be too secretive

f. Be optimistic


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4. Phlegmatic

A phlegmatic person is calm and unemotional.

Phlegmatic means "pertaining to phlegm", corresponds to the season of winter (wet and cold), and connotes the element of water.

While phlegmatics are generally self-content and kind, their shy personality can often inhibit enthusiasm in others and make themselves lazy and resistant to change.

They are very consistent, relaxed, rational, curious, and observant, making them good administrators and diplomats.

Like the sanguine personality, the phlegmatic has many friends.

However the phlegmatic is more reliable and compassionate; these characteristics typically make the phlegmatic a more dependable friend.


Strength :

a. Patient

b. Reliable

c. Loyal

d. A good listener

e. Efficient

f. Low profile


Weakness :

a. Slow

b. Lazy

c. Avoid conflict

d. Egoist

e. Hard to change

f. Not explicit


Learn to :

a. Don't be too shy

b. Increase your speed

c. Be optimist

d. Don't be afraid to face a risk

e. Don't be too sensitive with other's opinion

f. Don't always sacrifice yourself for other people

How to Get Cooperation

Let Other People Feel Like The Idea is Their Idea

Don't you feel far more easy to accept your idea you found than idea given to you on a silver plate? If so, isn't it a bad idea to force your opinion to somebody's throat? isn't it wise if you give your suggestion and let other people think the conclusion?


Adolph Seltz from Philadelphia, Sale Manager in car exhibition, held a meeting. He asked the employee to tell him, what they like him to do. As he spoke, he wrote their idea on blackboard. Then he said,"I'll give you the quality you expect from me. Now I want to tell you, what right I can get from you." The answer came real fast : loyalty, honesty, initiative, optimism, cooperation, enthusiastic eight-hours work. An employee even willing to work 14 hours a day voluntarily. And Seltz report that the increment of sale is really amazing.


"The people have made a moral agreement with me," Seltz said," and as long as I responsible to my role in it, they too are decide to responsible to they role. Do a consultation with them about their expectation and desire is a bulls-eye they need.


No one like to think that he/she is being sold or ordered to do something. We far more happy if we buy with our own desire, or do something with our own idea. We like to discuss about our expectation, desire, and thought.


"The reason why ocean accept honor from a hundred river in mountain is because ocean remain under them. So, they can control all current mountain river. The wise, if he expect to be above everybody, he take a position under them; if he expect to be in front of them, he positioned himself behind them."

Make A Good Relationship With This Concept

Have you heard of Dale Carnegie? He is a man who has many brilliant ways to have good relationship with others. His mastery of psychology help him to tell what is best to do to other people. I will rewrite a few his words from his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

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A Drop Of Honey

If your anger come and you scold someone, you will have a good time to express your feeling. But, how about the person you scold? Will he experience your happiness? Will your angry intonation, cruel attitude, can make him agree with you?

There was a fairytale about sun and wind. They are arguing to determine who is stronger. The wind say, "I'll give you a proof that i am the strongest. Do you see that old man with his coat? I bet that i am capable to pull his coat faster than you."

So the sun move behind the cloud, then the wind blow powerfully like tornado, but the more powerful he blow, the more tight the old man hold his coat.

At last the wind become silent and give up, then the sun appear from behind the cloud and smile friendly to the old man. Now, the old man wipe his eyebrow and take off his coat. Then the sun say to the wind that friendliness and gentleness always stronger than power and anger.

Application of friendliness and gentleness is showed from day to day by the people who've already learned that "a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall."

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The sun is a master of relationship, but the wind isn't. The sun makes the old man think that he is safe to open his coat. It is the same with your relationship with others. You won't tell your secret to someone whom characteristic is bad right? It's not safe to tell them your secret.

"A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall" is my favourite line. When you scold other people even if he is wrong, the people you scold will defend his dignity. You ruin his dignity when you tell him he is wrong. But if you behave friendly and gentle, the person will response the same way you do to him.

What Smile Can Do

The Value of Smile on Christmas

It doesn't ask to be paid, but it gives many

It make the receiver richer, without make the giver poorer

It just happen once, but sometimes the memory of it will last forever

Nobody although that rich can endure without it, and nobody although that poor but become richer because of it

It create happiness in the house, support kindness in business, and a token of response from friends

It gives rest for tiredness, bright for desperation, daylight for sadness, and natural amulet for trouble

But it cannot be bought, requested, borrowed, or stolen because it is something useless before given to somebody

And if at the last minutes of Christmas where most of our waitress become too tired to give you smile, can we ask you to leave your smile?

Because there's no one who needs smile better than those who has no more to give

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The expression reflected from some one's face is more important than the cloth he/she wears.
Smile to your friends and you'll see what smile can do in your relationship. I talk about an honest smile, not a fake smile. Your friends can tell whether your smile is fake or not. Do this and your relationship with your friends will be much much better.

Smile..smile..smile (^.^)/)