Make A Good Relationship With This Concept

Have you heard of Dale Carnegie? He is a man who has many brilliant ways to have good relationship with others. His mastery of psychology help him to tell what is best to do to other people. I will rewrite a few his words from his book "How to Win Friends and Influence People."

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A Drop Of Honey

If your anger come and you scold someone, you will have a good time to express your feeling. But, how about the person you scold? Will he experience your happiness? Will your angry intonation, cruel attitude, can make him agree with you?

There was a fairytale about sun and wind. They are arguing to determine who is stronger. The wind say, "I'll give you a proof that i am the strongest. Do you see that old man with his coat? I bet that i am capable to pull his coat faster than you."

So the sun move behind the cloud, then the wind blow powerfully like tornado, but the more powerful he blow, the more tight the old man hold his coat.

At last the wind become silent and give up, then the sun appear from behind the cloud and smile friendly to the old man. Now, the old man wipe his eyebrow and take off his coat. Then the sun say to the wind that friendliness and gentleness always stronger than power and anger.

Application of friendliness and gentleness is showed from day to day by the people who've already learned that "a drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall."

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The sun is a master of relationship, but the wind isn't. The sun makes the old man think that he is safe to open his coat. It is the same with your relationship with others. You won't tell your secret to someone whom characteristic is bad right? It's not safe to tell them your secret.

"A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall" is my favourite line. When you scold other people even if he is wrong, the people you scold will defend his dignity. You ruin his dignity when you tell him he is wrong. But if you behave friendly and gentle, the person will response the same way you do to him.