Secret in Giving a Command

Nobody like to be commanded. So how to give your command to someone? See below

Anger caused by one rude command, may end for a long time. Even if that command is given to correct an exactly bad situation. And Santarelli, a school teacher in Wyoming, Pensylvania, told how one of his student had blocked the entry to one of the school garage by parking his car there. One of the instructor enter the class, and he asked with rough intonation, "Whose car was parked in front of the entry?" When the student own the car answer, the instructor shout, "Move it, move it now, or I will set a chain and pull it from there."


The student was wrong. The car shouldn't be parked there. But from that day, not only that student who hate the action of the instructor, but all of the student in the class tried to do anything to give the instructor a difficulty and made his work become unpleasant. I bet his relationship with his friends was bad too.


How could he handle it with a different way? If he said with a polite attitude, "Whose car is blocking the way?", and then give a suggestion that if the car is moved, the other cars could go through, and the student would gladly move his car, then he and his friends wouldn't angry and hate him.


Asking a question will not only make a command heard more pleasant, that method often move other people you asked creativity. Other people prefer to receive command if they are participate in making the decision that make it come out.